WHAT IS Le BDSM?

LeBDSM.com is a Dating community for people interested in BDSM, Singles, personals, Social networking dating and more.


You're probably here because you are attracted by BDSM and it probably freaks you out ... but not enough to run away.

This world isn't as terrifying as some media has painted it. In fact, the world is SO LARGE, there's something in there for everyone.

In short,
BDSM = Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism.

WHAT EACH TERM MEANS

BONDAGE = being tied up or restrained for the purposes of erotic enjoyment, aesthetic display, or somatosensory stimulation. This can include, rope, tape, stocking, ties, or anything that renders the person immobile.

DISCIPLINE = Using rules and punishments to control or correct behavior.

SADISM & MASOCHISM = This is where we get the S&M (although SM or S/M is the more commonly used acronym). The pleasure derived from giving or receiving pain or humiliation. Not to be confused with the other usage of someone with cruel intentions. Aka. Assholes.

DOMINANCE & SUBMISSION = The power exchange between two people. One having control over the others actions.

DO NOT SAY "I'M INTO BDSM"

It’s like saying, “I’m into sports”.

Someone might like many sports (and be well verse in all things related to their passion) but very few people like ALL sports. Where is this sports rant going? Mirror that with the umbrella term of BDSM and all its subcultures, What do you get?

TERMS AND CONCEPTS TO KNOW

CONSENT

One cornerstone of any healthy, respectful BDSM encounter. It is “an informed, uncoerced, enthusiastic, revocable permission for something to happen at or over the legal age of consent.” People agree to play whether through a formal contract, verbal agreement, or casual conversation – it’s anything that clearly communicates they are aware of, educated on, and comfortable with the terms set forth.

SAFE

Since BDSM walks into the realm of risky (in varying degrees) parties must be aware of and do everything that can to avoid or minimize possible unwanted injuries, disease, or danger. Aka, you can hurt someone but not HURT someone. To do this, one should research and understand the kink they’re about to explore..

SAFE WORD

What is this word people keep going on and ON about? It's a special word or designated movement which communicates to the person controlling the scene that there is a problem and play needs to immediately stop. I know what you're asking, "But why not just say "stop??"You CAN. It's perfectly acceptable choice.

SANE

We're not talking about my friend's general consensus on my state of mind ... or lack thereof. It's having a healthy, sensible, and realistic frame of mind that is free from psychological derangement (here's where my friends tend to laugh and say I'm excluded) But being 100% serious... Stay away from the batshit crazy play partners and predators posing as Doms/Dommes.

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LeBDSM.com offer users a platform to find companionship, friendship, relationships and more. The site is free to join and allows users to browse the site, modify their profile, and send flirts for free. Users can even browse members by how they identify (submissive male, Dominatrix, BDSM couple, etc).